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Can’t get your child to wear a face mask? Here’s what to do

Expert tips to make it easier.

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If there's one thing we learned during the past 18 months, it’s that many kids don't like to wear face masks. It’s hard enough to get kids to wear a hat and sunscreen, forget about getting a mask on their face. We don’t blame them. So many masks are stuffy and comfortable, but even when you’ve ponied up for the best kids face masks around, you may still get some pushback.

The CDC has called for mask wearing in schools. While some school districts have immediately implemented a mask mandate on public school campuses—the question may still be out as to whether your child’s school or day care will require them. It’s good to be prepared.

Who needs a mask?

Boy and girl wearing cloth masks.
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It's suggested that everyone over the age of two wear a mask when in public.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) advises that children under the age of 2 not wear masks due to suffocation and choking hazards. Also, children with cognitive or respiratory impairments should not wear masks. If they do wear a mask, respiration should be monitored with a pulse oximeter when possible.

We spoke with the experts about what to expect, how to prepare, and how to get buy-in from even the more reluctant mask-wearers. And for ideas on what masks are most comfortable for kids? We've got that too.

1. Acknowledge their anxieties

A boy looks anxious as he puts on his face mask.
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Ask kids what it is about the mask that feels uncomfortable. You may be surprised by their answer.

While we don’t have a template for how to navigate through a pandemic, Tamar Chansky, Ph.D, a psychologist specializing in the treatment and prevention of anxiety and stress, the founder of The Children's and Adult Center for OCD and Anxiety, and the author of numerous books on anxiety says to approach social distancing and mask-wearing as you would anything else that a child might not want to do—but do so with an understanding that this may have just as much to do with anxiety as it does discomfort. While they may be complaining about the feel of the mask, the real issue may be the big feelings that wearing the mask conjures.

“Acknowledge that there is inherent anxiety in all of this,'' says Chansky, adding that it’s important to respect their fears, but to teach them how to push forward for their own safety. “There is a precedent for kids not liking what you ask them to do. This is just one more thing they don’t like that you support them through," says Chansky.

2. Home in on the issue

A father consoles a young son with his face mask below his chin.
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Acknowledging their anxieties will help them to open up and cope with their big feelings.

If your child says that they don’t want to wear the mask because it’s uncomfortable, Los Angeles-based preschool teacher Sarah Juarez recommends you eliminate assumptions about what that discomfort is. “We may assume that they don’t like the way the mask feels, but take away your assumptions about what they feel,” she says.

She recommends that, when they are calm, talk to your child about what doesn’t feel good about the mask. You may find that the discomfort of mask-wearing isn't anywhere near their face. "Maybe they'll point to their chest or stomach and tell you they don't like the way that area of the body feels when they wear a mask," she says.

Taking away assumptions and giving your child the chance to be clear in their discomfort can help you better focus on how to help your child.

“An uncomfortable face mask is one thing, but an anxious child will need to be approached differently,” says Juarez.

3. Talk about safety

A mom looks at her daughter while the little girl pulls off her mom's mask.
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Explain to them that mask-wearing helps us take care of each other.

Chansky says that how parents frame and present new information to kids is what helps kids decode in their minds whether something is scary or safe. Right now there is an underlying fear in most kids about an invisible sickness that is so serious they can’t leave the house. While an adult may rationalize that a mask can help protect them against this illness, kids' minds can linger on the idea of an invisible bad guy that can hurt them. Chansky says how you frame the information you give to a child is important. “Don’t present it as being about sickness or danger. Leave those words out, if you can,” says Chansky.

How parents frame and present new information to kids is what helps kids decode in their minds whether something is scary or safe.

Instead she advises that families talk about what is safe and healthy and come at mask-wearing as a means we all take to protect each other. “Talk about what’s safe, not what’s dangerous. Instead of saying, ‘We are trying to protect you,’ emphasize that we are all trying to keep everyone safe and healthy,” she says. Little kids home in on the negative, so try to make your spin a positive one.

4. Focus on community

Woman bus driver wearing a mask.
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Focus on important members of their community who need to be kept safe.

Chansky also recommends that you talk about all the important people in a child’s life that they want to protect. You can make it a fun family exercise of community-building and empathy. Sit down together and make a list of everyone they care about and about people in their neighborhood that make their day a happy one: their bus driver, scout leader, mail carrier, a favorite neighbor.

“Have them talk about these people to make it an exercise that cultivates a sense of generosity, which is good for one’s mood. If kids think, ‘There are a lot of people I care about who care about me, and we want to protect each other,’ it puts a different angle on things. When we are in crisis, community-building is so important and this is a way of doing that,” says Chansky. "Focus on wearing the mask to help the community rather than using the mask to isolate yourselves."

Focus on wearing the mask to help the community rather than using the mask to isolate yourselves.

Another thing you can do is have kids make cards or decorate masks with markers and give them to people in their community. “By having them make something positive to share, it’s a way of focusing on spreading kindness instead of the virus,” says Chansky.

5. Make it fun

A little girl puts a mask on her stuffed bunny.
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A mask on a favorite doll or stuffed animal can be helpful for little kids.

Let kids decide which fabric and design they like when shopping for a face mask. Chansky says you can also let kids personalize their masks by letting them decorate their masks with stickers, beads, or markers. When they put their stamp and personality on it, it can help take the chore out of wearing a mask and transform it into something they are proud to wear.

You can also use pretend-play to help kids practice wearing masks and to help smooth out the mystery and anxiety of wearing one. Have a stuffed animal wear a mask or make masks for favorite toys, and have kids talk about why they are wearing them.

Model masks together in the mirror so kids can look at you wearing yours at the same time they are wearing theirs. Or you can create little games, such as letting them pretend they are ninjas or spies wearing a mask, to help them ease past any sensory issues that may arise.

Juarez also recommends that you pretend you are going on an outing. "Pretend that you are visiting Grandma or that you are walking the dog together. Let them pretend so they can investigate through play how it all works and they can even figure out how you might respond if they take off the mask when they aren't supposed to—it can be an exercise for you, too,” says Juarez.

6. Ease into mask-wearing with a timer

Family on a walk wearing masks.
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Start with short outings, and progress from there.

Juarez recommends short outings, marked by a timer, to help kids ease into mask-wearing. Start with as little time as you think they can tolerate and build from there. “Maybe start with a five-minute walk in your neighborhood. Whenever they start to want to pull off the mask, show them the timer and let them know, ‘You only have two minutes left!’ If they can see the goal they are working towards and they can see the end that’s in sight, it can help calm them,” she says. Each time you go out, add an extra minute to the timer until they no longer need the visual check in for when it’s time to pull the mask off.

7. Demystify

A set of smiling eyes behind a blue face mask.
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Show kids that the eyes can show emotions just as much as the rest of the face can.

Chansky says kids may feel anxious about mask-wearing, in part, because when a mask obscures the wearer’s face, it also obscures subtle facial cues that kids rely on to understand people’s emotions and intent. "The apparent lack of visual cues is hard for them… work with them to demystify the cues and show them that they are still there and how to find them," Chansky says.

She recommends parents make a game of practicing a range of facial expressions while wearing a mask. Kids can glean cues from the eyes and body language; Chansky recommends doing practice drills of interactions to help kids interpret these cues, and to help them find their own options for expressing themselves.

"Ask them how they want to express themselves—will it be a hello with a wave or with hands in the shape of a heart in front of you," says Chansky. She says this practice helps kids to absorb the idea of how masks can fit into their everyday life.

She also recommends looking up photos online of other kids wearing masks. Try to find some that look expressive and ask your child if they can figure out how the child in the photo is feeling. “These things can show how expressive eyes and body language can be, and that can help kids feel like they have tools in their toolbox to express themselves, even when half of their face is covered,” says Chansky.

8. Model positive behavior

A family of five all wearing face masks
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If parents are resistant to mask wearing, kids will mimic their behavior.

More than anything, be sure to show yourself wearing masks whenever necessary and show that you see it as a positive way to help your community, as opposed to a tedious requirement being imposed upon you. “The whole idea is that we show them that even though this is different, it isn’t dangerous,” says Chansky. She goes on to say that children use their caregivers as a constant scan for what is okay in life and what’s not. “Something different can feel dangerous,” she says. “We can make them see that it’s just different. It’s something we all are getting used to and it’s so far from something to be scared of—it’s actually really helpful.”

9. Give them space to process

A dad and daughter touch noses while wearing masks.
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Give them the space they need to process their emotions before diving in to force them to wear a mask.

Stories are always a good bet for helping to soothe kids as they approach the unknown. Many kids stayed home for much of the past year, so getting outside and among people can be just as anxiety-inducing as putting on a mask.

Books, coloring books, and mindfulness activities can help kids process their feelings, and can help them better understand the reasoning why mask-wearing is so important.

We like the following titles to inspire kids to feel more confident going out in the world.

An activity book and coloring book to process their emotions

A book with masked kids on the cover.
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This workbook and coloring book combo helps kids process through their fears of COVID-19.

This activity book and coloring book combo have all sorts of activities to get kids thinking about COVID-19, the fears they have regarding it, and steps they can take to feel more powerful and confident as they live through this pandemic.

An Elmo book for big feelings

A book cover with Elmo wearing a mask
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Elmo is always great for getting kids to do hard things.


Elmo always knocks it out of the park when it comes to getting buy-in from kids. If Elmo wears a mask, it has to be cool! This book addresses all of the common fears kids have when going out, and also talks about how it’s important to protect others during a pandemic.

Get Heroes Wear Masks at Amazon for $6.58

A book about being a ninja

A cover of a book with a child ninja
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Ninjas are cool, ergo mask-wearing is cool!

It’s kind to wear a mask. This book combines the coolness of ninjas with the kindness of being socially responsible. It also cultivates community-mindedness in discussing how we are all in this together, no matter our culture or skin color.

Get Masked Ninjas at Amazon for $11.99

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