10 best places to buy LGBTQ+ sex toys
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Pride Month might be over, but being a member of the LGBTQ+ community doesn't end on July 1. Whether you're out and proud or still exploring your sexuality, inclusive sex toys made for all bodies can be an important way to discover new pathways to pleasure and fulfillment, both with others as well as with yourself.
Some adult retailers are better to buy from than others, however. Major retailers like Amazon or Adam & Eve, while massive, typically market with cisgendered and heteronormative folks in mind, which can make finding gender-inclusive products stressful. These retailers (Amazon in particular) also don't offer workshops or other virtual resources for learning about a product's benefits or how to use it, which can make the shopping experience similarly disappointing.
Sex toy shops led by feminist educators and innovators within the LGBTQ+ community are an excellent alternative because the products they sell are often created to cater to the needs of queer shoppers. Their sites are also more apt to offer educational resources—including virtual workshops and/or seminars—about toys, sexuality, and safe-sex practices. Consider the following 10 sex-positive and LGBTQ+-friendly shops the next time you're looking for a new toy for yourself or your partner(s).
Established in Seattle, Washington, in 1993, Babeland is a feminist, LGBTQ+-led retailer created by co-founders Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah in response to the lack of female-friendly and inclusive sex shops in the area at the time. The brand, which currently has three brick-and-mortar locations (a flagship in Seattle and two additional locations in New York City) and a massive online store, was absorbed by Good Vibrations in 2017, but still has the same focus on providing sex-positive, education-driven spaces for folks of all genders.
You can shop for a variety of toys at Babeland, including strap-ons, prostate stimulators, and other goodies. While you’re checking out the site, you may also want to consider upcoming free virtual events on sexual health and more.
2. Boy Butter
Founder Eyal Feldman launched coconut-oil lube brand Boy Butter in 2003 at the International Mr. Leather competition, a large pageant for the leather-kink community. In the years since, this NYC-based queer-owned business has grown and gained in popularity, with commercials even appearing during RuPaul’s Drag Race.
What sets Boy Butter The Original formula apart from other lubricants is that it offers all the great benefits of oil-based lube—namely, it’s very slippery and long-lasting—but you can wash it off and it won’t leave stains behind on fabric the way oil-based lubes typically do. While this lube isn’t compatible with latex condoms, you can use it with non-latex condoms like Lifestyles SKYN, so keep that in mind before you buy.
This Black and trans-owned retailer (not to be confused with Enby, Wild Flower’s gender-neutral toy of the same name) strives to create a comfortable sex toy-shopping experience for those in the LGBTQ+ community, and specializes in gender-inclusive sex toys for transgender, gender nonconforming, genderqueer, and nonbinary folks.
You can shop a range of products, including vibrators, dildos, period products for all bodies, and other items. The company, which is in the process of receiving B-Corp certification status, uses carbon-neutral packaging for shipments and a percentage of sales made on the site benefit renewable energy and forest conservation projects. Additionally, 2% of all proceeds go to support organizations that help improve the lives of queer/trans people of color, and shoppers are encouraged to contact the brand directly if they know of organizations that could benefit from additional support.
Founder Nenna Joiner established Feelmore in 2011 in Oakland, California, as a sex-positive space for folks of all genders to shop for intimacy products that feel great for all bodies. In addition to the Oakland-based shop, Feelmore has a Berkeley location and a major online inventory featuring everything from G-spot vibrators to kinky toys, and so much more.
Joiner has also been a force in the sexual-wellness space, advocating for more openness, inclusion of Black entrepreneurs, and emphasis on sexual pleasure.
5. Vixen Creations
With a soft, almost squishy outer layer but a firm (yet still pliable) inner core, dildos by Vixen Creations are considered among the best you can buy right now, bar none. This queer-owned company, which was founded by Marily Bishara in 1992 and is based out of Austin, Texas, refers to the proprietary silicone blend used in its hand-poured dildos as “VixSkin” and is unique compared to similar phallic dildos on the market.
These toys have the heft, girth, and most of all, the feel of a penis, and if that’s something you’re shopping for specifically, Vixen Creations toys should be at the top of your list. These dildos also feature a suction base—not a suction cup, which is an important distinction—so they fit comfortably into a strap-on harness.
You can also shop for Vixen Creations products at Babeland, so if you’re already looking for other items (like lubricants) at the latter shop, it may be a great opportunity to get all your shopping done in one place.
6. The Butters
The Butters, a Black and queer-owned shop established in 2015, isn’t a sex store, strictly speaking. Rather, this online retailer specializes in vegan skincare products and just so happens to make a phenomenal oil-based lube, too.
Founder Jerome Nichols, based out of Michigan, was looking for better products for their hair and skin when they decided to start creating their own products at home. The company offers an assortment of goodies, including moisturizers and bath bombs, but the original lube is a lot of fun because it’s formulated with aloe vera and shea butter, and according to the shop, it’s safe to use on all body-safe materials (including silicone toys). Just remember, because it’s an oil-based lube, stick to non-latex condoms when you’re playing with this smooth cream.
Founded in 2007 by Jacq Jones, this lesbian-owned business is dedicated to promoting consent, education, and fostering an atmosphere in-store and beyond that’s sex-positive and respects sexuality as both fun and sacred. While you're on the site, you can peruse pre-recorded virtual workshops on everything from masturbation tips to prostate milking, too.
8. Agreeable Agony
Finding kink products—for instance, safe wax-play candles or bondage rope that’s braided or twisted with Shibari and/or suspension scenes in mind—can be tricky, especially if you’re looking for better-quality items than the chintzy (but deceptively top-rated) stuff sold on Amazon.
Agreeable Agony is a Western Massachusetts-based artisan collective that makes very well-regarded kink products for all genders, including handmade floggers and impact toys that feel sturdy and look beautiful. If you happen to be local, you can scope Agreeable Agony’s finely crafted leather-kink goods in person at Oh My Sensuality Shop, a pleasure-positive sex toy store founded in 2003 by mother-daughter team Carol Gesell and Beth Meyers in Northampton, Massachusetts. Everyone else can shop its site or find select products on Etsy.
9. New York Toy Collective
Packers are a phallic-shaped object worn to give the appearance of a bulge, which can be gender-affirming for trans masculine and non-binary folks looking for more realistic gender expression. What’s interesting about Black and queer-owned New York Toy Collective is that the brand makes posable dildos that can also function as packers.
Specifically, the Shilo (the brand’s most popular toy) and the Carter (a girthier version of the Shilo) are harness-compatible dildos that can be great for everything from sex to more realistic gender expression.
Co-founders Chelsea and Parker established the business in NYC in 2012 with an eye toward offering sex toys for folks of all body types, so this is one inclusive retailer you don’t want to miss. You can also shop select New York Toy Collective items at Babeland, but will have more options if you head directly to the retailer’s main site.
10. Come As You Are
Based out of Toronto in Ontario, Canada, Come As You Are was founded in 1997 as a worker-owned cooperative with an emphasis on feminism in the shop’s approach to sexual education, health, and product selection.
While you can shop the brand’s brick-and-mortar location, Come As You Are has a solid online inventory, too. You don’t need to have a membership to shop this co-op, and the only products stocked—including products like the Lelo Ina Wave, Satisfyer Pro 2, B-Vibe Snug Plug 2, and others—are ones that employees vouch for and believe in. Not only that, Come As You Are doesn’t make any money off commissions, which sets it apart from other retailers in the space.
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